Rules for dating my daughter
1. Ask her. It will not be my job, as a parent and specifically as a father, to control or protect my daughters’ relationships and bodies when they grow up. I will be happy to provide what advice I can when they ask, but I will not be a gatekeeper or protector. My hope as a father is that my daughters all grow up to expect only the best for themselves, that they know how to say no with strength and righteousness, that they learn what love is, in a small part, through the example I show with how I treat their mother, that they strive to be proud of the choices they make and the relationships they develop, that they learn to appreciate being in a relationship with someone that simultaneously challenges and affirms their beliefs and goals. I will not be a protector of my daughters' 'virtue.' I will strive to be a parent that helps them be people who defend that on their own with great strength and courage.